In the spirit of getting serious about paying down debt and finding a common saving goal, I hired a housekeeper. Not to be outdone, Hubs hired a live in cook! How fancy!
How can we afford such luxury? I’ll give you a hint. My housekeeper’s name is Hubs and our chef answer to “Kate.” The chef and housekeeper are also willing to work for free. 😉
About a month ago, Hubs and I talked about the state of our apartment. We had two nagging problems. There always seems to be a mess and we stress about food. When we got deeper into it, we found that we had divided interests that weren’t being maximized properly.
He cares about the mess. I don’t. So long as the house isn’t disgusting and I can find what I need, the mess in the house doesn’t bother me. I, on the other hand, stress about the food. I worry about what’s for dinner, if there is enough variety, and the nutrition of our meals. I care about how often we are eating out and what we are eating. Hubs would be totally cool going to Five Guys every night. He’d get a Bacon Cheeseburger with mayo and onion with an order of little cajun fries. He’d be a satisfied man, and quickly weigh 500 lbs. Even with all his eating shenanigans, he’s still slim. I’m not so lucky.
To help manage both of our expectations, we split the responsibilities. I am the chef. I do all the grocery shopping and plan all our meals. I do any meal prep for the week and make dinner every night. He is the housekeeper. He keeps all things clean and tidy, which is his nature. He cleans up after dinner. My only job is to not make a mess. He’s even been doing the laundry lately, which wasn’t part of his accepted duties. Perhaps my housekeeper deserves a raise!
Since we divided our duties, we’ve both had lower stress levels. I’ve been more excited to cook and he’s been tackling nagging cleaning projects. (Hello spare bedroom where things go to die!) For me, knowing that I only need to cook has been a huge relief. I have set expectations and I’m working to leave behind what society says I should be doing as a wife. I’ve actually been helping out more with the cleaning! I guess, knowing that I don’t have to has made me want to. Bonus: My knife skills have improved!
I strongly suggest you get yourself a housekeeper!
How do you divide chores at home?